Brene Brown’s TEDx Talk. The Gifts of Imperfection.

December 5, 2010

The first time, I watched this video because it features my lovely friend Brene Brown*. I’ve heard Brene speak several times, and she’s always just stunning…that’s the best word I can find to describe it. Stunning, and smart**, and powerful. This TEDx talk is no different.

But then I watched it again. And again. And again. And it’s now to the point that I watch it almost every other day. This is no longer because this is my friend’s talk. It is because this talk is mood changing, mind changing, life changing.

She talks about living a wholehearted life. But you really should watch the video to get it. Because Brene is just so funny and smart and engaging, however, if you want a preview, here’s a really good synopsis by Michele Woodward:

Brown calls worthy-feeling, connected, loved and loving souls The Wholehearted. Her research shows that what The Wholehearted have in spades is courage – the courage to tell the story of who they are with their whole heart.

  • they have the grace to be imperfect
  • they are kind to themselves, even when imperfect
  • they are comfortable enough with themselves to be authentic, and forge relationships based on who they are – not who they “should” be

That’s a a good start. But there’s so much more. In fact, there’s a line in there that I’m working on having an artist develop into a piece I want to hang in Harry’s room. More on that as it develops.

But in the meantime, if you are a human and haven’t yet watched this video, I highly recommend that you do so. And not just because I love the speaker. Because it’s a must see.

*Here is Brene’s blog.

**Here is Brene’s blog where we discuss our favorite curse word.

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  • Reply craig @09thehippy December 12, 2010 at 3:24 pm

    Found my way here via Jenny Lawson. (The bloggess) As a life long researcher of human behaviour with a strong emphasis on objective measurement and predictable outcomes, I faced the same conflict of understanding. For me it became an existential crisis that nearly ended my life. I consulted a psychologist for help and after about six weeks she quit me as a patient because my positions were too highly defended. (sound familiar)
    I was left with no way forward and no way to reconcile the the conflict that was robbing me of purpose and meaning in my life. This video gives me a way forward. Thank you for presenting it. I will be adding the video and relevant links to my own site in the coming days and I hope that more people will do the same. This is not POP psychology, Brene is talking about a subtle yet fundamental shift in the way we view and value ourselves and our connection with the world around us.
    “Making the world a better place starts with us”.

  • Reply Zom G, December 12, 2010 at 11:05 pm

    Landed here from Jenny too and I can’t thank any of you (you, her, or Brene) enough. I’ll be spreading this video as far and wide as my little mac can carry it.

  • Reply Margaret Goerig December 13, 2010 at 7:14 am

    Wow. Thanks for posting that (and thanks to The Bloggess for leading me here (again)). Brené was totally right about being afraid to be vulnerable and how it holds so many people back. It reminds me of one of an economic theory my friend told me about: that to be bankrupt is better than not to know where you stand, when you do at least know that you are having financial difficulties but you’re not sure to what extent, because it’s all equity. At least when you are at zero or below, she said, you know where you are, whereas to be floating in limbo with possessions that may or may not be worth anything means that you have no clear starting point from which to improve.
    Similarly, if you are vulnerable to others, it will make you more aware of your faults, which will then give you something to improve, which will in turn make you a better person. Thank you for the reminder to do that every day.

  • Reply Jules December 13, 2010 at 11:03 am

    This was amazing.

  • Reply BABS December 16, 2010 at 11:39 am

    Landed here from Jenny the Bloggess. These videos are not captioned for the deaf/hard of hearing. I would love to hear the message in these videos. Would you consider captioning the videos and/or give a full written manuscript please? Thanks!

  • Reply Tamara December 18, 2010 at 2:38 pm

    Thank you, thank you, thank you.

  • Reply Mdm_Rptr December 22, 2010 at 5:34 pm

    I am a court reporter who utilizes stenographic writing in my work. If Ms. Brown and TEDx give their permission, I would happily write up a transcript and produce a digital file so that those who are hearing impaired may be able to experience this meaningful speech.

    Diana Van Dyke

    • Laura Harrison Mayes
      Reply Laura December 22, 2010 at 9:05 pm

      Mdm_Rptr, send me your email address to helloqueso at gmail dot com and I’ll forward it on to Brene. Thanks!

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