Showering
There's a virtual baby shower going on for a variety of smart bloggers including Liz at Mom-101, Christina of A Mommy Story, and Tammie of Soul Gardening.Check it out.
They have games too (I know, games = gag) but with great prizes (I know! Prizes = Excellent!)
But first, the part where we give them advice. I have no advice. So I'll pass along the best and worst advice I got when I was prego. We'll start with the worst.
The Worst Pregnant Advice: "Just be yourself." Um. What the hell does that mean? Is this an After School Special? No. Be yourself? First of all, that makes no sense...it's like saying, "keep breathing" or "keep your skin on." Secondly, how the crap are you supposed to be yourself when for the last 10 months you've been two people, and now you're a person who is in charge and who has no skills to take care of someone you've never met? Because myself doesn't really know how to be when the new person cries hysterically in the middle of the night. I'm just saying. This doesn't help.
The Best Pregnant Advice: "Just roll with it." I think this pretty much speaks for itself.
So what is the best and/or worst advice you've gotten, you've given, you'd like to give?
Do share. And do shower. It's better for everyone.
posted by Girl con Queso at 8:21 AM
18 Comments:
Not that I have ever given birth but I hear the following are kinda handy and they both have to do with poo... (sorry), which is something I hear you become very familiar with.
1. Beware, whilst giving birth. It makes you want to poo.
2. Beware... the baby's first poo. Like tar apparently.
Now that I have grossed everyone out, I'll go.
Some of the best advice that I got was to sleep when baby sleeps. A true lifesaver, if you only have 1 child of course at the time. Also, I was killing myself at first with cleaning when the baby was resting or laying peacefully in her bassinet. I was exausted and my mom was the one who actually told me that the messiness would still be there tomorrow, treause this time with your baby.
Best advice that I got (and took) was to leave the baby in the nursury overnight so you can sleep while in the hospital...
That is nice that they will get some goodies.... every mom needs goodies..
The best advice I recieved was "Accept help from others". Which of course I didn't follow, because I was a first-time paranoid mom, but you better be dang sure I'm following that advice this time.
The best advice that I got was from my mom about being a parent. She said, "Enjoy your child, make sure that she knows you enjoy her.. enjoy being around her." I really do. She's a great person to hang out with.
Best Advice from an experienced mom:
"Don't shelter them too much. Let em discover the world around the. Kids are pretty durable!"
The best advice I got was from a friend: "If they are crying they are breathing and that means they are ok". Sometimes it was a mantra!
Worst advice: That I'd need anything but my boobs, a Boppy and a Baby Bjorn for the first 3 months. There is SO MUCH useless baby stuff out there!
Best advice I wish I'd had:
There will be many times you feel like a failure. You're not. No doctor, no teacher, no 'expert' with the latest book knows your child better than you. Trust your instincts.
Best Advice: Accept help from anyone who offers.
Worst Advice: Get the baby onto a routine immediately. Are you kidding? This didn't work out at all for us and I felt like a failure. Until I realized it was just bad advice!
Worst: enjoy your sleep NOW while you can. no one wants to hear that and by the way, I got a grrrrreat sleeper after the initial month or so. they were wrong.
Best: to choose nurse my son.
My BIL used to say, "I they're not dirty they're not having fun."
Best parenting advice ever!
"IF they're not dirty they're not having fun."
Just be yourself - that cracks me up. That must have been a very sleep deprived new mom herself who thought you were asking about first dates, not first babies.
My Moms advice was to use a safety pin on my bra to remember which boob should be used to start the next feeding.
Best: 1- Make sure your pediatrician has raised some kids. 2- At 6 weeks they are capable of putting themselves to sleep. Armed with this knowledge, you can put a sleepy, but awake baby down and walk away for 10 minutes to give them a chance to do it on their own. 3- Ignore all the advice from the old bats in the grocery store.
Worst: Anything the old bats in the grocery store share.
Worst advice I got (and ignored) - to refuse to give a pacifier to a baby, because it was "a bad habit." This, from someone who smoked. Ha.
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Ugh. "Just be yourself" Um...wasn't Hilter just being himself. I'm pretty sure he was.
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